Remembering my Mom during Heart Month

​I originally wrote this article in 2014, the first February after my mother passed. I am re-sharing it now in 2019 because the story is still the same. Far too many women don't know the signs of a heart attack or choose to ignore them. I hope my moms story will inspire you to learn about heart health in women. 

This is a very special February for me since it is the first heart health month since my mom past last August....

My mom and I were always close and we loved to hang out together, go shopping, all the things that girls and moms do! One day when I was in my 20's and my mom was in her 50's, we were out together and we stopped to have our hair done. At one point, the owner of the salon came over to me and whispered "your mom is not feeling well and she's in my office. I think it's serious, I personally think she should go to the hospital, but she's saying it's nothing and that the two of you have other errands to run this afternoon." This was a typical mom response, but fortunately several other women in the salon overheard and insisted my mom go to the hospital. It was a good thing we did, because she was in fact having a heart attack. Thanks to those other women she got the help she needed and she was OK. 

A few years later, mom had another similar incident but again, after going to the hospital and being treated - was OK.  My mom, aka Glitzy Glady lived to be 94 and lived a long and wonderful life until she passed away this past August.  She proved to me that a heart attack does not have to mean a death sentence if you seek medical attention and are properly taken care of... AND if you properly take care of yourself.  

Unfortunately my mom's reluctance to seek medical attention is very typical of most women in general. A survey by the American Heart Association asked women what they would do if they saw someone having the signs of a heart attack and over 90% said they would drop whatever they were doing and call 911 to get the person the help they needed. However when asked what they would do if they themselves were experiencing those same symptoms, LESS THAN HALF said they would go to the hospital. Why? Most every woman answered that they needed to take care of their child, pick kids up from school or get to the store so they could cook dinner.  But wait a minute, arent we talking about saving our own LIVES?!  Part of this reason is that the symptoms of a heart attack for a woman aren't as well-defined as that stabbing pressure in the chest that most men experience. For this reason many women are far more likely to ignore those symptoms and not seek help until it's too late.

So what are the symptoms? You may suffer chest discomfort that last more than a few minutes or that goes away and then comes back. It can feel like uncomfortable pressure, squeezing or pain. Or it may be much more subtle pain in your upper body – symptoms can include pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach. You might also experience a shortness of breath (with or without chest discomfort) or nausea that comes on quickly or break out in a sweat. However if you are having a heart attack, the faster you can get to the hospital, the less damage will happen to your heart. Every second counts.

Heart Disease is a major health issue for women. We need to know the symptoms, listen to our bodies, and begin to understand that we can't ALWAYS put everyone else first.  We would never consider not getting proper medical treatment for one of our children if they were ill. However many women actually look at taking time to tend to themselves, as a selfish act. But it's the opposite really. Taking care of our own health is the greatest gift we could give to our loved ones.

More women die from heart attacks than men for one simple reason:  because women don't go for help. This is a preventable death and we, as women, need to change the way we think and react.  We need to listen to our bodies, know the signs, and get medical attention fast enough to save our lives.

It all begins with understanding our risks and taking them seriously. In order to truly understand your personal risk of having a heart attack, you need to know your family health history. And you must share that information with your personal physician. It's crucial that you and your doctor understand your family history in order to take the proper preventative measures and protect your health. If you don't know your family history, then make a promise to yourself today, that you will talk to your family and find out the details of your family medical history.

Here's what you need to know to find out if you are at risk: Do you have a father or brother who had heart disease before age 55, or a mother or sister who had heart disease before age 65. Those are the factors that contribute to being at risk for heart disease, along with smoking, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and of course your age.

We all want to live long healthy lives, and there is a lot that we can do to insure that. Eating right, exercising and making good lifestyle choices (no smoking, drinking, drugs, and keeping stress in check), but knowing our family history can sometimes be the most crucial piece of information in knowing if we are at risk for a heart attack.

You can learn more about safeguarding your heart health at http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/